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Sex Toy or Not a Sex Toy – An Unimportant Question

Written By: admin - Nov• 09•14

The line that defines sex toys is a difficult one. Many people like to argue that if something is specifically made for spicing up a sex life, then it can be called a sex toy. Others believe that anything, regardless of shape, color or texture can be labeled as a sex toy the moment it starts to play a part in the bedroom. Luckily it’s a debate that won’t really have much effect on the sex toys universe. It’s going to keep expanding until anything you need is available. For this article we look at the items on which this debate is based.

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In modern times people call it lube and it started as an aid rather than an enhancement. The first use of lube was to replace natural lubrication typically situated in the female sexual organ. The latter sounds very technical, but it’s the best way to say it and sometimes women have trouble in that area. Men fear erectile dysfunction problems and women fear vaginal dryness. This problem gave rise to lube hitting the market and it goes without saying that nobody is moaning. There is water and oil based lube, but water based is the safest no matter what the occasion. Oil can have some side-effects which aren’t always pleasant.

As the years progressed lube became more creative. Different flavors and scents joined the ranks, taking the lube movement to another level. For some couples sex always has to include lube simply because it makes the experience so much better. It really opened the doors for safer anal sex among other things. The best lubes are those that last for a long time, but that’s as far as “best” elements because some tingle, some slightly burn while others just smell amazing. If tester bottles are available then get some before making a decision.

Kinky Clothing

It’s strange that people actually debate whether kinky clothes can fall into the sex toys department. The real question should be why not? Just because it doesn’t simply focus on the genital area doesn’t mean it’s not effective. It creates visual stimulation along with physical contact arousal, making it one of the most effective sex toys available. Nobody really knows when the fetish for certain fabrics and looks occurred, but there is no denying its popularity.

Kinky clothes have come a long way since nurse and schoolgirl outfits. Now you get dominatrix leather in addition to very stylish lingerie. In fact, kinky clothes aren’t nearly as cheesy as it used to be. Role-playing is fun, especially when you are dressed for the part.

Food and Aphrodisiacs

Tasty treats in the bedroom might not sit well with everyone, but there is a relatively large market. Several sex and lingerie shops have a special section just for edible sex toys, which ultimately makes food part of the sex toys family. It started with giving chocolates on Valentine’s Day as a symbol of affection and ended with melted chocolate getting licked off naked bodies. In all fairness, food is probably the one sex toy people didn’t anticipate. Using whipped cream and strawberries probably started as a joke, but ended in manufacturers focusing on food for the sex market. This is also the reason why people consider it a sex toy.

Whether you have a sweet, sour or salty tooth, you are bound to find something that can be shared with your partner and causes arousal. The food itself might not have anything to do with physical stimulation, but it helps the mind to reach that point much quicker. Some couples believe food can serve as an aphrodisiac, although scientifically speaking it cannot be proved. The Greeks held on to the belief that specific drinks and food can make sex more pleasurable and nobody can truly prove them wrong either.


Sex is a fun activity, especially if strange little sex toys are being incorporated and it shouldn’t be studied too deeply. We are bound by primal instincts and everyone has their own button that launches their pleasure missile somewhat higher than usual. If you consider clothes, food and lubricant as sex toys then it’s your right. If you don’t believe they fall in the same category it’s your right too. In the end it doesn’t really matter as long as you enjoy the ride.

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